Flirting with my past 

A few weeks ago, we buried my cousin💔💣, as I grew up knowing her to be ( you know black people, everyone is your cousin especially if you’re around the same age). It’s strange how the kind of interactions you had with someone who has passed , really forces you to think about your own existence. 

In this time of grieving and funeral preparations I spent alot more time in my birth place town than i have in over 10 years. Reconnecting with family and old childhood friends we used to play in the streets with,sad what modern Western tendencies we have developed, seeing family after decades unless funerals occur inbetween.

I sort of felt myself emotionally being caught up between who I was back then, and who I am now, during this period.

For starters my desire to constantly seek the approval of those I look up to, I was shocked to realize that i actually hadn’t let go of that habit, in my current self state. I still did not like being obviously rebellious, and would then need to sneak around or allow myself to be dictated to even if I had good reason for the things I had chosen to do. I should know better right, and own my decisions? I thought…

Growing up has an added element to it in my life now, because it means appreciating who i was and balancing it with who I am, and who I want to be, and have those personalities, co-exisit, because I have something significant to learn from my different states of being , and that is what makes me unique from the next individual.

No one can teach you how to be yourself, I’ve spent so much time learning from other people and from books,  I left learning from myself last on the list.


Being in my home birth place town, Soweto…made me realize that I’ve neglected to create my own constitution of how to live my life, and learn enough about what works for me, as opposed to what worked for others.

I’ve come a long way, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, but there is so much about my past personality that i have decided to revisit and develop because I had so much more empathy, love and respect, so much stronger and a lot happier haha🤔😃, regardless of lifes challenges that occurs with growth into adulting, I knew more about my true self back then, that i’d chosen to forget in my present self, because of choices I made out of fear, when i really think about it,🤐😕.

It’s important to be conscious of your habits and reasons for those habits, they will tell you alot about where you are from and where you are going, and your awareness gives you the opportunity and power to indicate direction to where to next, instead of constantly going where the wind blows you, and feeling frustrated when you end up in an unplanned place. 👀

They say the past, present and the future co-exisits simultaneously, in the spiritual world, because depending on how you choose to perceive things in these different states of being, you see a different possible future.💬🤔

 I don’t know how true this is, but i see God working on all levels of my life and I can see how it works together and I have absolute FAITH my purpose is being fulfilled to the level of OUR choice. 

Flirting with my past reminded me of the grace upon my life, and the importance of my growth from my roots, that do not need to be cut off, but rather recognized, nurtured and developed together with my present, and future. 

Happy Monday 

Love Life, Live Life, Be of Life! ❤

Noxolo Moni ❤

Early days of what made Busi ” cool ” Noxolo was a part of it, i dont think i know anyone else who had the same taste in boyfriends than i did( as teens  ) 😋.

When i look at my friends, my cousins, as i grew up knowing them to be  , i had the best the childhood any person can dream of, as the fairytale goes, we grew apart.  Time shed light and we really tried to make things right and good again…girl even tried to hook me up with a potential once upon a time in my broken hearted times, haha…she really wanted to see me happy. 


Your life has taught me strength, resilience and absolute toughness i dont know many people that would have even tried to carry on after what you had been through, but you did.It hurts so much that you have left us, which is even sadder because i took your presence on earth for granted, mostly because i thought we’d always have time to make up. 

Thats all i ever wanted from my family, for them to live abundantly. I’ve seen so much pain, struggle and dissatisfaction, i pray…no i command a better life  and circumstance for all of us, and all who truly seek it! 

You deserved more than you got, and now you will possess more than you could ever dream of, because i know you are in the best of hands. 

Thank you for being you, thank you for adding joy to this world and thank you for your love, that you shared! 

From the bottom of my heart, I love you❤!

Go well sis wethu…we will always love you and  your soul’s presence will forever be in our hearts ❤😔😔 …

I want to love, like…

I want to love like, for real, love like thats all that exists, love like thats all I can give. 

I don’t want to love like obsession, or possession but love like I am the reason you become a sucess. I want to love to encourage you to love yourself more than I can love you. 

I want to love so real that when I depart from this body one day that my love can still be felt, a love that is immortal, one that creates a world of wonder and joy. 

I want to love beyond physicality, through pain, in success, there is a presence in the universe that allows for this love to exist, I’ve heard that it makes the world go round.

There’s a lot I may not know about life, which is great because I am living and loving my path and growth, mostly I love the kind of love I am blessed with from all sides, from strangers to family and friends on my journey. 

What are you thankful for, how would you describe your love language and expression. 

A huge part of love is loving both good and bad in yourself and others, are you at a point in life where you can do that? 

I want to love like life is a game that is meant to be fun and we engage in it at full throttle. 

I wish you love at its best and your truly self defined idea success and purpose ❤😄😋

Its okay

​Seth: “It is self-defeating, therefore, to blame yourself for mistakes, so-called, simply because in the light of your present development they are seen as less developed acts than those to which you now aspire.
Whenever you catch yourself disapproving of yourself for past mistakes, read  these passages. Do not check on yourself all the time.
Trust that you will learn what you want to learn as automatically as you once  learned to read or speak, or as automatically as you think.
In your realm of reality; mistakes are a part of the learning process. 
They do not even seem to be mistakes until you are “at the next level” of  development, or a step higher in your understanding–as when, say, in the sixth grade you looked back and saw a page of your own childish lettering done at the age of five.
I realize it is difficult to understand at times, but even your so-called  mistakes have many far-reaching beneficial results that do not show in an isolated fashion.
They may add to your understanding of yourself and others. They may be applied beneficially in entirely different areas of your life–so stop disapproving of yourself, of your “mistakes.”
Try to set your goals and to trust that the proper impulses will come to you to  bring them about and that others will be disposed in your direction, for their own reasons.
In the meantime, try to live in the present as much as possible. Do not  undervalue or overvalue yourself.”
Seth, session 917
Jane Roberts © L.Butts, from Sethquotes…

Racism is a defense mechanism 

Dear readers, I am a South African female, you know, the country known for humanism which is the legacy left by Nelson Mandela and his fellow comrades during the apartheid era.

I see color, my brain reactive brain sorts out differences and makes sense of things by grouping them, but when it comes to human beings, I dont see how you can maintain separating human being based on the color of their skins. 

From skin tone, to race to which country you come from. All these things we put labels on are nothing but defense mechanisms. 

Afraid of the different!

Human beings have an internal fear of things that are different to them. 

I mean, notice how when  you have something in common with the person ” different to you”, you forget predujice in that moment? 

Psychology studies have shown that people get along with people they have similarities with, regardless of race or country of origin. They would rather have a conversation with someone they get along with than someone of their race/gender/country of origin/skin tone ect.

My point here is, the people who took advantage of this fact hundreds of years ago, succeeded in seperating human beings long enough to encourage the differences and discourage the similarities. 

Think for yourself and be the best version of yourself, dont carry on the the legacy of inferiority or superiority. We all here for different reasons and should do our best to live in a manner we are proud of, not ruled by fears, not ruled by anything … just being the best at life, your life😄!

Regards

Miss B Dalamba 

Nominated Liebster blogger award!

Thank you jessiewuvs 😄😘

Conscious Love:Addiction 

Amazing girl, the one that will love you unconditionally, one that finds your problems so interesting ,like a science project she’ll always aim to Ace, no matter how long it takes. 

The one you treat like a doormate until you walk away and actually realize she had your best interests at heart, and come back to. The one who will always understand you but you can’t have anymore because she finally got you to fall in love with her.

There she goes, in love with another broken amazing guy. Putting all her energy into making another complex relationship work, instead of focusing on real life missions like building  an empire like you and fortifying her strengths.

Addicted to love? 

No,  addicted to running away from herself, the intensity of a new relationship has the equal effect of cocaine ( I can imagine ). Excitement they call it, a great high, and that includes the lows from the drama.

So…

Will amazing girl finally pick a suitor she finally will commit to? Will she stay in love with a guy that loves her beyond her expectations or will she find reasons why he will be better off without her?

Does amazing girl actually want a happy ending in this lifetime or is she fixated with the idea of being the amazing girl against her emotionally unavailable , or overly emotional suitor.

Choose to give the kind of love that will most likely make you a better person, a person you consciously choose to be. Best of all, love yourself so much that the person you choose may be your best choice in the universe, according to your vision for yourself. Keeping in mind that no one is perfect, only perfect for you. 

Amazing girl is learning to love, in different forms and is loving beyond familiar territory, life is a journey, she just has to learn the art of maximizing the  love for herself before she gives to others, only then I believe can the love she gives be pure and life changing. 

Not everyone will have a happily ever after story, but everyone gets what they focus on the most, the trick is to conciously choose to focus on something they actually want and live it.

Happy Saturday 😚😊…Love, Live, Laugh 

Define Your Value 


Defining your value as a person is important…because that will decide how the world will treat you.

I am an advocate for the phrase’go with the flow because you can’t always predict what will happen but i have learnt that you have to determine what you want and expect to receive that and more from people, from life.

Reason : The energy you give off to people is the same energy that will result in how they will choose to treat or react to you…therefore, you have to direct your expectations like a person in control of their lives or the other will decide for you, and you might not like it.

So: You can’t control every detail of your life, but make the best out of what you do have control over, your thoughts, your feelings and how you respond to situations and people.

Method : 

– Write down in point form 10 good qualities that define who you are to your 6 year old self ( Try this while looking at an old picture of yourself to help encourage emotion to this method).  Eg :” I am that one person people can always count on at work, your mom is great”.😄

-Choose one quality from this list that you feel is unique only to you, and USE it as your power supply ( inner home in yourself ), knowing absolutely that this is your strength and excert that confidence in every area of your life. 

My book ( yet to be published ) , focuses on encouraging my readers to really block the noise of society and find their own unique voice , find their flow and in turn live a life they will never regret not having LIVED. 

Some people cannot say no to save themselves, some take it as far as living a compelete life having allowed everyone from family to friends to make choices for them, not because they’re such nice people, but because they have not learnt to value their time, their energy and themselves. 

One day at a time, with refined thoughts and actions, you can change how people react and treat you, one situation / crisis at a time people will see the change in you and the recognize your self development. 

Trust yourself, trust your journey and remember, you are never alone, there is a higher power that knows you beyond the worlds opinion of you…