Woman are more than virgina keepers and baby producers for men! 

  • Close up, don’t show too much skin 

Says people who care about us and have learnt to adapt to the rules of society.

It’s a matter of just doing what they’ve imposed on us because we don’t want trouble and have other things to deal with than boys and men being tempted to rape you and having to see you go through that pain. Just listen and do as required.

(  Here is an example of a woman that embraces her sexuality and her husband is perfectly fine with it, it smells like a confident man who doesn’t need to own the women his worth, to prove his manhood )

  • She pushed me/ provoked me, She cheated on me, She came home late, She was disrespecting me in front of my friends and family. 😥

So we’ve gathered 1% of the exuses used to justify a man hiting a woman. Iv come to realize that these men are afraid of women, and cannot compete with them intellectually so they win physically, because they biologically physically strong so, it’s a quick win

Stop being weak, if you have problems with your manhood or self-esteem, stay single, fix yourself , if you cant control your emotions , learn how to and get into a relationship with a woman when you’re ready.

  • 🤔😖

Well its unfortunate that he thinks so and I do hope he is only part of a minority of men who believe this to be true, especially looking into the history of our country and how much freedom means to ALL of us.

Abortion ? Says a man who cant get pregnant with his own body but has an opinion on people who can. Therfore you cannot even begin to imagine what women have to go through, being single moms, health issues that lead to such choices, what she goes through after an abortion or…eintlek, you know nothing so let’s leave that here…🙄😃😐😒 

Bona mo, we have to work because we choose to, we are human just like you, aside from biological features, you are no better and I, and I am no better than you. Don’t be so intimidated by women and rather embrace that you can have yourself a partner to lessen the load, instead of making it your mission to want us out. 

  • Why must we work so hard just to get women to sleep with us, just give it up.🤔🙄

Spoken like people who own something that actually BELONGS to them. I usually play down this statement because I am friends with guys who seem to unconsciously have this mentality but I have to say, stop it! 

Women are not put on this earth to supply your needs, if she wants to sleep with you , she will , there are plenty of liberated women who do not care about the status quo and have sexual desires just as high as men, find them, and work it out. Have some respect for women, and if you can’t respect her, walk away, don’t let her not knowing her worth, decide who you’re going to be. 🤗

  • Men must work for me, With a big ass he won’t resist me( theres more to you). If he acts like that he won’t see his child, I won’t tell him his not the father of this baby, let me lie and say he raped me( this is serious , don’t play around )…😏😫😴

1% negative thoughts and actions from women, that affect peoples lives. Look, I know sometimes with emotions men can drive us a little crazy 🙄, but do not be insane and think doing the aforementioned things is alright, cause it’s not! 

Women are the creators of a better tomorow, we have to teach them morals that we uphold, be honest and own your mistakes,and get rid of them at a profit, dont hurt yourself even more by making demands that don’t help anyone in a tricky situation,be the solution, not the problem. 

I honestly believe we need each other as men and women, but only our best selves can create a better future.

Concluding on a positive note: It is easy to think of going outside yourself to meet God but It is not so easy to think of going inside yourself to meet God. But that is where God is, and in the holy of all holies of your own soul you may meet God.

Feed your soul…

Thank You 🙏🙌

Happy Woman’s Month ( When the time arrives, we will have a Men’s Month too ) 😁

Regards…Miss B Dalamba 

Lifeless Saint, don’t get lost in the illusion, use it!

Lifeless saint, where are you in this world of illusions.

Do you live dependant or independent of it? 

How hard or easy is it for you to adapt, or have you been able to have become of it? 

I miss your innocent presence, comforting love ,laughs and the gift of unwavering faith that I learnt at its peak with you. 

The reality of your life is that it was what humans called a mistake but the essense of your life is one so precious that a word such as a miracle is fitting. Then again, a miracle contained, denied and to be forgotten by everyone but one.

The unforgiving world with expectations so lofty that even the people who set them cannot meet but have perfected the method of putting pressure on those far enough to not come close enough to witness their true realities.

In this life of illusions dear saint, have you found the closest thing to love, to happiness, to living close to real as possible and how are you coping with the illusion of progress?  Is it leading to your actual growth or are you deteriorating under the pressure of social standards? 

Lifeless saint, wherever you are, I hope all is well with your soul. I send my love to you and your current family, if living ,and are abundantly blessed to have crossed paths with you. 

Somewhere out there, I hope you learn quicker than most, that life is an illusion, as real as the dreams you have when you go to sleep, but its an illusion which exists to serve you.

Pay attention! 

Be aware of your own power ,that inner strength,your inner God … lifeless saint, don’t let them tell you otherwise, you show them!

​Strength Learns to Respect Weakness 

Weakness ignited bad reactions to my senses, it seemed so helpless so frail, and pathetic. I guess it made me feel strong as a person that I felt this way about weakness because…Emotions reflect weakness impulses or strength impulses, I respect the mortal being that learns the art of controlling their emotions and yet knows how to balance that with knowing when to let go of those emotions.

Strength betrayed me when I met this girl, I saw her strength and admired it, she had a beautiful smile, bold personality, had so much joy and love to give. Until I saw the darkness she held on to from within. She was so good at being put together that when she put her mask down, her weakness screamed out at her and refused to be ignored. Right there…the one thing we ran away from when we faced with people, facing you aggressively confident.

Strangely enough the more hidden, the more powerful it becomes.

Pain was forced on to her and I couldn’t embrace strength in the face of seeing her pilled up pain forced to sync in with the her happy mask.The cruel expectation to be okay when you’re not just to make other people comfortable , other people including your own parents and friends.

Her strength was portrayed for the world to see, not her, so whats to admire?

They say the one who is brave enough to show raw emotion has true strength. I believe having the courage to be aware of your raw emotions show true courage, way ahead of masking your pain and acting like everything is okay when you’re not.

Strength learns to respect weakness because they can both learn something in each other

​The Darker Side of Truth 

Honesty is the best policy they say, I think it’s true, what I doubt is that it brings peace to minds of those who think the truth is bright and beautiful. 
The truth hurts they say, see…now we are getting somewhere. The truth has a bad habit of hitting your guts with the reality of what’s really going on, as opposed to what you would like to think is going on. 

I am a first hand victim to what this line of thinking can do to you, now I am an undergrad graduate due to the lessons I’ve learnt 😊 . Sometimes, the best thing you can do is to face the truth head on and in the mist of ‘what is’ you can consciously be aware of what is going on and make better choices.

The Truth will set you free,they say… oh I bet you it will. The misconception here is that it is perceived that ‘the good people’ of the world are honest, now now, we know that’s a lie, good people lie a lot to maintain their ‘good person image’. I’ve noticed how when a someone cheats in a relationship, or someone has a huge secret they can’t bear to keep to themselves, they tell the truth to ease their guilt, is about the, not the other person, ‘as they claim’, but ay…I could be wrong, but think about it. In no way am I excusing those who are hurtful and spiteful to others and claim that ‘they just honest, people should take it and should be strong enough to handle it’. 

The power of truth is born within the intent. I once heard someone say, being nice is fake, you know, how white folks fake smile you when you meet them in the corridors or the elevator? Yes, being kind on the other hand, is real, its genuine. 

I choose to be a truth teller with the intent to become a better person, not at the expense of others misery but rather the profit of my growth.  

Flirting with my past 

A few weeks ago, we buried my cousin💔💣, as I grew up knowing her to be ( you know black people, everyone is your cousin especially if you’re around the same age). It’s strange how the kind of interactions you had with someone who has passed , really forces you to think about your own existence. 

In this time of grieving and funeral preparations I spent alot more time in my birth place town than i have in over 10 years. Reconnecting with family and old childhood friends we used to play in the streets with,sad what modern Western tendencies we have developed, seeing family after decades unless funerals occur inbetween.

I sort of felt myself emotionally being caught up between who I was back then, and who I am now, during this period.

For starters my desire to constantly seek the approval of those I look up to, I was shocked to realize that i actually hadn’t let go of that habit, in my current self state. I still did not like being obviously rebellious, and would then need to sneak around or allow myself to be dictated to even if I had good reason for the things I had chosen to do. I should know better right, and own my decisions? I thought…

Growing up has an added element to it in my life now, because it means appreciating who i was and balancing it with who I am, and who I want to be, and have those personalities, co-exisit, because I have something significant to learn from my different states of being , and that is what makes me unique from the next individual.

No one can teach you how to be yourself, I’ve spent so much time learning from other people and from books,  I left learning from myself last on the list.


Being in my home birth place town, Soweto…made me realize that I’ve neglected to create my own constitution of how to live my life, and learn enough about what works for me, as opposed to what worked for others.

I’ve come a long way, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, but there is so much about my past personality that i have decided to revisit and develop because I had so much more empathy, love and respect, so much stronger and a lot happier haha🤔😃, regardless of lifes challenges that occurs with growth into adulting, I knew more about my true self back then, that i’d chosen to forget in my present self, because of choices I made out of fear, when i really think about it,🤐😕.

It’s important to be conscious of your habits and reasons for those habits, they will tell you alot about where you are from and where you are going, and your awareness gives you the opportunity and power to indicate direction to where to next, instead of constantly going where the wind blows you, and feeling frustrated when you end up in an unplanned place. 👀

They say the past, present and the future co-exisits simultaneously, in the spiritual world, because depending on how you choose to perceive things in these different states of being, you see a different possible future.💬🤔

 I don’t know how true this is, but i see God working on all levels of my life and I can see how it works together and I have absolute FAITH my purpose is being fulfilled to the level of OUR choice. 

Flirting with my past reminded me of the grace upon my life, and the importance of my growth from my roots, that do not need to be cut off, but rather recognized, nurtured and developed together with my present, and future. 

Happy Monday 

Love Life, Live Life, Be of Life! ❤

Noxolo Moni ❤

Early days of what made Busi ” cool ” Noxolo was a part of it, i dont think i know anyone else who had the same taste in boyfriends than i did( as teens  ) 😋.

When i look at my friends, my cousins, as i grew up knowing them to be  , i had the best the childhood any person can dream of, as the fairytale goes, we grew apart.  Time shed light and we really tried to make things right and good again…girl even tried to hook me up with a potential once upon a time in my broken hearted times, haha…she really wanted to see me happy. 


Your life has taught me strength, resilience and absolute toughness i dont know many people that would have even tried to carry on after what you had been through, but you did.It hurts so much that you have left us, which is even sadder because i took your presence on earth for granted, mostly because i thought we’d always have time to make up. 

Thats all i ever wanted from my family, for them to live abundantly. I’ve seen so much pain, struggle and dissatisfaction, i pray…no i command a better life  and circumstance for all of us, and all who truly seek it! 

You deserved more than you got, and now you will possess more than you could ever dream of, because i know you are in the best of hands. 

Thank you for being you, thank you for adding joy to this world and thank you for your love, that you shared! 

From the bottom of my heart, I love you❤!

Go well sis wethu…we will always love you and  your soul’s presence will forever be in our hearts ❤😔😔 …

I want to love, like…

I want to love like, for real, love like thats all that exists, love like thats all I can give. 

I don’t want to love like obsession, or possession but love like I am the reason you become a sucess. I want to love to encourage you to love yourself more than I can love you. 

I want to love so real that when I depart from this body one day that my love can still be felt, a love that is immortal, one that creates a world of wonder and joy. 

I want to love beyond physicality, through pain, in success, there is a presence in the universe that allows for this love to exist, I’ve heard that it makes the world go round.

There’s a lot I may not know about life, which is great because I am living and loving my path and growth, mostly I love the kind of love I am blessed with from all sides, from strangers to family and friends on my journey. 

What are you thankful for, how would you describe your love language and expression. 

A huge part of love is loving both good and bad in yourself and others, are you at a point in life where you can do that? 

I want to love like life is a game that is meant to be fun and we engage in it at full throttle. 

I wish you love at its best and your truly self defined idea success and purpose ❤😄😋

Its okay

​Seth: “It is self-defeating, therefore, to blame yourself for mistakes, so-called, simply because in the light of your present development they are seen as less developed acts than those to which you now aspire.
Whenever you catch yourself disapproving of yourself for past mistakes, read  these passages. Do not check on yourself all the time.
Trust that you will learn what you want to learn as automatically as you once  learned to read or speak, or as automatically as you think.
In your realm of reality; mistakes are a part of the learning process. 
They do not even seem to be mistakes until you are “at the next level” of  development, or a step higher in your understanding–as when, say, in the sixth grade you looked back and saw a page of your own childish lettering done at the age of five.
I realize it is difficult to understand at times, but even your so-called  mistakes have many far-reaching beneficial results that do not show in an isolated fashion.
They may add to your understanding of yourself and others. They may be applied beneficially in entirely different areas of your life–so stop disapproving of yourself, of your “mistakes.”
Try to set your goals and to trust that the proper impulses will come to you to  bring them about and that others will be disposed in your direction, for their own reasons.
In the meantime, try to live in the present as much as possible. Do not  undervalue or overvalue yourself.”
Seth, session 917
Jane Roberts © L.Butts, from Sethquotes…

Racism is a defense mechanism 

Dear readers, I am a South African female, you know, the country known for humanism which is the legacy left by Nelson Mandela and his fellow comrades during the apartheid era.

I see color, my brain reactive brain sorts out differences and makes sense of things by grouping them, but when it comes to human beings, I dont see how you can maintain separating human being based on the color of their skins. 

From skin tone, to race to which country you come from. All these things we put labels on are nothing but defense mechanisms. 

Afraid of the different!

Human beings have an internal fear of things that are different to them. 

I mean, notice how when  you have something in common with the person ” different to you”, you forget predujice in that moment? 

Psychology studies have shown that people get along with people they have similarities with, regardless of race or country of origin. They would rather have a conversation with someone they get along with than someone of their race/gender/country of origin/skin tone ect.

My point here is, the people who took advantage of this fact hundreds of years ago, succeeded in seperating human beings long enough to encourage the differences and discourage the similarities. 

Think for yourself and be the best version of yourself, dont carry on the the legacy of inferiority or superiority. We all here for different reasons and should do our best to live in a manner we are proud of, not ruled by fears, not ruled by anything … just being the best at life, your life😄!

Regards

Miss B Dalamba 

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Thank you jessiewuvs 😄😘

Conscious Love:Addiction 

Amazing girl, the one that will love you unconditionally, one that finds your problems so interesting ,like a science project she’ll always aim to Ace, no matter how long it takes. 

The one you treat like a doormate until you walk away and actually realize she had your best interests at heart, and come back to. The one who will always understand you but you can’t have anymore because she finally got you to fall in love with her.

There she goes, in love with another broken amazing guy. Putting all her energy into making another complex relationship work, instead of focusing on real life missions like building  an empire like you and fortifying her strengths.

Addicted to love? 

No,  addicted to running away from herself, the intensity of a new relationship has the equal effect of cocaine ( I can imagine ). Excitement they call it, a great high, and that includes the lows from the drama.

So…

Will amazing girl finally pick a suitor she finally will commit to? Will she stay in love with a guy that loves her beyond her expectations or will she find reasons why he will be better off without her?

Does amazing girl actually want a happy ending in this lifetime or is she fixated with the idea of being the amazing girl against her emotionally unavailable , or overly emotional suitor.

Choose to give the kind of love that will most likely make you a better person, a person you consciously choose to be. Best of all, love yourself so much that the person you choose may be your best choice in the universe, according to your vision for yourself. Keeping in mind that no one is perfect, only perfect for you. 

Amazing girl is learning to love, in different forms and is loving beyond familiar territory, life is a journey, she just has to learn the art of maximizing the  love for herself before she gives to others, only then I believe can the love she gives be pure and life changing. 

Not everyone will have a happily ever after story, but everyone gets what they focus on the most, the trick is to conciously choose to focus on something they actually want and live it.

Happy Saturday 😚😊…Love, Live, Laugh